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S S A G E - THE T O U G H O F L O V E
Touching is the most specific way to express your love.
We
invite you to learn new things about erotic massage and you will see
that you will be able to transform it in a wonderful touch of love.
In
this article is only the beginning. You have to follow us day by day for
discovering the beautiful lovers language without words.
A BRIEF INTRODUCTION
Erotic massage as a touch of love is a dance of energy and love. It is a
language especially for lovers. During the massage either or both of you
might feel erotic or you might fall asleep or you might burst out in
laughter or in tears. You might or might not have intercourse before,
during or after massage. However, should orgasm become the goal, you
might miss many other pleasures. Allow each moment, each feeling to
unfold itself. This is the meditation.
Massage is an art when you express yourself with sensitivity and
awareness. Let your touch discover the other without demands and
expectations. At first the techniques will be techniques, like learning
to ride a bicycle, after a while your touch will come to nourish the
body, the soul, the mind and the spirit. You will also find your
beloveds body in stillness, pleasuring your hands. Let your fingertips
taste the curve, the rough, the smooth, the firm, and the soft. Let
yourself feel.
WHAT YOU NEED?
- A quiet place
- A warm place
- Oil, perhaps a lotion - on membranous tissue, a water-based
lubricant may be healthier
- A towel
- A padded table, a bed or padded floor or a large towel on the
beach
- Gentle music
- Perhaps feathers and silk scarf
MEDITATIVE MASSAGE GUIDELINES
There are three basic guidelines when you give a massage to your lover:
1. Be present by letting go of expectations of the future and
comparisons with the past. Be here and now.
2.Whenever is possible maintain full-hand contact. Allow your
palms, fingers and thumbs to outline the contours.
3. Maintain a continuous flow. Movements blend together, each one
enhancing the preceding and preparing the next.
REMEMBER:
- If your touches produce good feelings to your lover, then you are
doing them correctly, regardless of theory or written instructions.
- Vary the pressure, the tempo and the rhythm. Repeating a stroke in
the exact same way each time becomes boring very quickly to both the
recipient and the giver.
- Minimize the talking. An important exception is when your lover
needs to communicate his or her deep feelings.
- Become centered. You can become more quiet by slowing your breath.
Being centered you will experience more deeply your own pleasure.
PREPARATIONS:
Where?
As long as distractions and interruptions are minimized you can give the
massage anywhere. When you give the massage outside, take precautions
for insects and excessive sun. When you do it inside then unplug the
phone and arrange for everyone else including children not to interrupt
you.
It is very important to maintain a warm temperature. If it is
necessary, use a portable heater or cover the areas of the body you are
not massaging at the moment.
When?
Explore the energies of a new moon, an equinox, and a solstice or
celebrate a birthday, an anniversary. You can do it after an intense
work or during a stressful period. Sometimes you can be spontaneous but
setting aside a specific day or evening is more likely to ensure it
happening.
With what?
Basically all you need is oil. Fragranced ones entice the mind but may
sting the skin. Some prefer vegetable oils (unfragranced coconut oil is
a very good choice) and others prefer mineral oils. On membranous
tissues, such us the female genitals, some consider water-based
lubricants to be healthier. You can apply the oil or lubricant to your
hands either from a plastic squeeze bottle, a bottle with a push pump or
a bowl.
Massage tables are great for your back. Otherwise, a padded floor, a
bed or the ground covered with cloth is quite suitable. Gather a large
towel or two. When your lover lying on the front side he or she may need
a covered foam pad or a coupled rolled towels placed under the front of
the ankles. When lying on the back if there is strain in the lower back
then place the same pad underneath the knees. If you anticipate using
feathers or other tactile stimulators have them close at hand. Select
some music, without dominating rhythms and without words. Use
candlelight or colored lights, incense, flowers and whatever creates a
special ambience.
Everything is ready?
Once your beloved is ready to begin give him or her the invitation to
take a few fuller breaths and to close his/her eyes. Allowing your hands
to move intuitively. You can open doors to inner peace, to pleasure, to
joy, to harmony and to love both your beloveds and yours.
EXPRESS YOUR LOVE THROUGH DEEP TENDERNESS!

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