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There are three different kinds of conversations, each of them connected with a stage of erotic games: prelude, intercourse and postlude.

Each of them has a different aim and also a different style. We might become more attractive by learning when, how and what to talk about when we are making love. This kind of knowledge brings us a lot more happiness and intimacy, because the things we say that moment can create an important emotional relaxation. For some of us the words whispered while the love game are almost as important as orgasm. Many may not be conscious of that but a sensual man knows it.

Through talking we can free ourselves from the internal tensions that surround and press us. Women receive happily and with emotion your tender and admiring remarks, words that are meant to encourage and also to create a more intimate atmosphere between the two.
Lets now examine the three stages of conversation, in their natural order:


THE PRELUDE CONVERSATION
This stage is the less attractive to a man. If he is excited he doesn't feel the need to talk, as he wants to act. Most women are not hurried, as they are concerned. Generally they do not appreciate the direct approach "Lets make love" and neither the lovemaking immediately.

Women want a gradual intimacy, natural and tender in which words play a decisive role. Mans words, associated with his kisses and caresses are the ones who show his sincere affection for his lover. Without "I love you", "You are very beautiful", "You are warm, tender, sensual", the woman might doubt the sincerity of your intentions. And why wouldn't you tell her that? You care about her, don't you? You are glad that she's there with you and is hugging you warmly, tenderly and loving, aren't you? Then tell her and do not be corny because a woman feels these things very easily. Don't try to win her over by telling her how extraordinary and sensual she is if she is not like that.


TRY TO EXPRESS YOUR BEAUTIFUL FEELINGS FOR HER
This is a very important principle. It might feel a little awkward at first. Maybe you are in the living-room with the lights on or you are discussing what you did at work… but when the right moment comes you have to make her see very discreetly yet clearly that the love game may start. That if she hadn't moved faster than you. This sign shouldn't be verbal. You can slowly take off your shoes or lie down gently on the sofa, turn off the lights or do anything that might suggest your intentions.
Continue to give more and more importance to your "audio" approach. Lower your voice to the warmest and most seductive tone, take her hand and kiss her gently. Thus you may say that you're starting to make love with her through words.
What you can say in such moments? Well, why don't you just tell her how nice the whole night was? Or how much you missed her at the office? Or how relaxed and happy you are when you're with her. Something like " You changed my life so much" has generally a special, overwhelming effect.

It is time to relive and tell what it was that attracted to each other at first. You can be playful and even childish because it will help you overcome the inhibitions and tensions from during the day. Remember the most beautiful moments you both had. Don't forget the comic situations or the delicate moments. Laughter makes you feel a lot closer, intimate and tense less. As a matter of fact this is the key to success: creating intimacy. You have to be tactful, not to talk about certain flaws or failures. There is no need to wear the public-personality mask any more. But sometimes this is the hardest thing to do for a man.

TO WANT OR NOT TO WANT IT? THAT IS THE QUESTION
Especially at this stage a lot of men wish a conquest for sure and for that they behave falsely talking with their lovers on a well-scheduled scenario. They think it is necessary to be cold, calculated, imposing, in order not to miss the opportunity. And that's why they need to be false.

This moment is a real test of compatibility with your girl friend. The more natural and sincere you are to her, without sweeping away your chances for making love to her, the more right you are to each other. But if you have to act in order to convince her to go in bed with you, then it is certain that you are not made for each other, at least not for a long time.
A lot of men are nothing else but bad actors and they behave so corny when try to be more like Mickey Rourke or Richard Gere.

Here it is a significant example of a false approach:
A man, when thought of himself as a special conqueror, told us about one night when he crowded a beautiful woman on her chair, "Even if we stop here", he whispered in her ear. "It will still be the most beautiful night in my life." "Do you really think that?", she asked him with a little glance. "Of course I do. God is my witness that I will never lie to you" he whispered. "OK", said she, giving him his coat. "Then I will not feel guilty when I ask you to leave. Good night!" So our advice is not to be ridiculous and to be yourself, open and full of love.

DIALOGUES DURING THE INTERCOURSE
It is difficult to tell you exactly when, but at a certain time during prelude the discussion has to suffer a transformation. As the clothes are being thrown on the floor tenderly and bodies start to show to each other in a fascinating way, the romantic sentences from above have to become sighs. This is true even for the most cultivated men.

It is very important to communicate and to show the one you love the happiness and pleasure she gives you, one way or another. Never think that if you experience with intensity and passionately the lovemaking, this will bother or inhibit the other. On the contrary! Both men and women need to be told that they are loved. Most of the times the body pleasure intensifies itself dozens of times when one can feel the other vibrating or moaning because of the pleasure he/she is given.

Of course we find sonnets and love poems written by more or less famous writers. But have you asked yourself what do they talk about at climax, when they are making love? Almost surely it is "Ah!", "Oh!" or "YES!". The reason is partly physically: when the pleasure is more intense the breathing rhythm is faster than usual and it is a lot difficult to express yourself through sentences.

But threes also a mental motif. Generally, the lovemaking focuses our attention on our intense feelings of pleasure. You can see that during this "dance" all other means of communication, such as speaking, are incapable of expressing the ineffable of our feelings.

And threes a psychological motivation. Moans, sighs and interjections are exciting to a man. Some women think that vulgarity is a disgusting language. They prefer sweet pet names and can even be shocked by such a behavior wondering if they are making love to an animal.

In this case it is best to learn that sex is a lot more than an animal-like behavior. These women can help us understand this thing and can make us open up to deep, profound feelings, not only physically, and to feel the pleasure more intensely both mentally and emotionally.

Of course it is best that we stay away from vulgar words, read in low-quality porn magazines. They can destroy the romance, the intimacy and the beauty of an erotic game. Tender words, filled with love gets us a lot more warmth and closeness and our feelings will certainly be more profound and refined.

If the other is the type of person who loves vulgar exclamations we have to use our tact to explain, with words or gestures that this is not our style. But be careful because it is an extremely delicate situation. A lot of men consider women that do not like vulgarity as affected. And there are also women who have the impression that he is not a real man if he doesn't use this kind of language. Top turn this person over requires a lot of time, patience and perseverance.


THE MYSTERY MOMENT
Sighs and pleasure exclamations are gone now. You are lying in bed, in his arms. What a feeling! What a joy! But men are usually sleepy right now! Wake up! Yawn, blink, move your fingers, do anything but do not sleep yet. You are right, it is normal, if you make love in an ordinary way, which means by loosing the sexual energy through ejaculation, but make an effort any way. In the case of lovemaking with sexual continence this will not happened. Both of you will feel vivid after lovemaking as the beginning.

It seems that women live in another world or have another biorhythm and now your girlfriend wants you to hold her, to talk to her, to admire her, to overwhelm her with tender loving words. So, if you liked it, tell her that. Tell her what you felt while you were making love and how you're feeling now, describe her the whole pleasure that you feel.

Keep on touching her, caressing her, pampering her. Don't turn your back on her as if you are finished, as if what is next has nothing to do with what has happened so far. At this moment the touch of a man is the most precious, priceless actually. Now it is the moment of feeling close. If the man doesn't behave tender, especially careful and loving with the woman he loves there can be unexpected and irreparable emotional breaking. This could mean the decline or the end of a relationship, of a couple. And if the man is not clever enough to realize that, it is highly probable that he will never find out what upset her and why she is avoiding him and wouldn't make love to him again when everything was going so well, in his opinion.

So this is the time of communication. No other moment is probably as right for the two lovers to open up to each other as the postlude stage. After the intimacy and the physically closeness it is time to share your thoughts, hopes and dreams. It is a special moment that can show a lot of things about you. What your fears, joys and hopes are, what were her deepest desire, her cruelest failure, and her biggest satisfaction. You can even tell him about your latest dream. It doesn't matter that you don't know anything about dreams or psychology. The simplest fact that you talk is very important. Tell jokes. Laughter has the force to take tensions away, if there are any more left.

These little discussions can do wonders in the harmony and emotional equilibrium of a couple. People are very happy when we pay attention to them and we trust them by telling about our intimate thoughts. And we will feel the same knowing that our beloved is ready to tell us about her most intimate feelings.