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Unfortunately most people consider "making love" as one single thing - the intimate, genital rapport. In case of a harmonious couple, when the two know and love each other, "making love" can be extended to the whole day and from that to always. They can communicate rapidly and even give birth to an ecstatic passion only with a glance.

Kissing, passionate embracing and caressing are very important for an erotic fusion as complete as possible. And loving and caring couples that applies them in their intimate lives use every single opportunity to express their affection and adoration that way.

An affectionate touch or a tender caress are often much more important than thousand of words and a passionate embrace at the right time almost makes every little word useless. All those make the mutual appreciation bigger and the impact of the genitals, even if it was not yet in their attention, gets even more important. Sometimes these little intimate ineffable things can express a simple "I love you" or, other times, they are evident preludes to a certain erotic activity. In a couple where the two lovers are in harmony one with the other, the communication takes place without words because they reach the state where they know precisely the meaning of every single manifestation, used spontaneous as means of preparing for the following lovemaking.


LONG LASTING PRELUDE
This delicious way of erotic fusion becomes a longer and more profound prelude that can lead, if they both know and accept it, to a genital intercourse that will take place at a certain time in the near future.

Doing the same thing in our intimate life we will see that for us sexuality becomes something else. This also means that we will be able to handle so much better the ups and downs of our sexual appetite, of our desire because, once harmonious one with the other, our erotic interest appears a lot more sooner and then we will know exactly what to do. Acting later, when the real fusion takes place, the sexual intercourse will be a lot more profound and successful because it will take place against a complete awake of ones erotic interest to the other.

This way you can deal a lot easier with the variations of your sexual appetite and even with a possible failure that will be looked upon from another perspective that starts from the point that the erotic relation between two lovers can be sexual even when they are not ready for intimate interaction. It is funny that this way the couple gets rid of the tensions and stress due to the sex obsession and starts to feel a lot more pleasure and will even make love a lot more.

This delicious intimacy is almost permanent and can lead sometimes to the desire to caress the genitals of the person you love and even to excite them and it can be a first stage of the oral sex or other kinds of fusion that exclude intimate contact of the genitals.

SECRETS
In a loving, steady and long-lasting couple lovers can reach a non-words communication and sense what the other feels and thinks.

Mutual sharing of secrets in a harmonious couple maintains and even intensifies the ineffable atmosphere of mystery and communion.

For example when the woman whispers into his ear, while dancing together, that she is wearing his favorite piece of lingerie. Touching "by accident" certain parts of his body can have an extraordinary effect. Some couples have such magic impact through nothing more than a look.

There are also lots of lovers that use a certain mysterious language of their own, even in presence of others. Thus they can tell each other exactly what they feel, how turn on they are, what their erotic expectations are, feeling a lot better.


JEALOUSY
That is why such a couple is less predisposed to jealousy-sufferings, because they flirt almost all the time, trying to respond the others mysterious love calls.

They no longer look at others as a possible threat because they know then that all that they have together is worth a lot more than any superficial, fast relationship the others could offer. If all these sound like a dream to you or it is too hard to be acquired, we are giving you some simple solutions that will let you improve your situation.

Start by going back to your behavior at the beginning of your relationship, when you were flirting (most couples did not do that and that's why they hadn't found any opportunity of expressing their love without intercourse). Give one another a lot of gifts with no reason. There is no need for them to be expensive. What matters is what you think and what you feel when you offer them. Kiss her more. Call her at least once a day to tell her that you love her. Leave love-notes in unexpected places where you are sure she will find them. Date her just like you were teenagers, and it was your first date. Try hard to like and to be liked, to conquer the other like at the beginning. Don't forget that threes always another option, another possibility to choose. There are so many people who are in love but skip a lot of chances for being really happy for years. A lot of them realize that they forgot how to behave, and that only when they go back to the first stage of their relationship, they really felt happy when they were courting each other constantly. But you have to know that practice makes you perfect and doing what we tell you to, you will soon see that you will become an expert in the art of flirting and courtship. Try and be patient and add to those your life experience and you will have a lot better results in a short time even if it were possible from the very beginning of your relationship.


SENSUAL VACATIONS
A very simple and efficient way to obtain those wonderful results is organizing sensual vacations. Such "erotic mini-vacations" can last from one night to a weekend. The main object is to get out of the routine when you are in bed or out of it and to get to flirt with the other and really court him/her.

You can arrange this vacation in advance. One idea would be sending a lot of signs that should also be love tokens that are supposed to be paid off in vacation.

Thus you can talk about: a small breakfast in bed containing aphrodisiacs, a sensual massage, making love in unusual places, a new erotic position or any other kind of erotic fusion that you are certain your lover will love. Or, why not, a whole night for making all fantasies come true. Of course every couple has its own ideas about what is good for them, what suits them, what they had always loved to do.

It is preferable that you send these signs a couple of days before the event so that the other has enough time to prepare himself if it is necessary. It also helps you give him time to anticipate and even fantasize about what is going to happen. It doesn't have to be too expensive - you can put it all together in your house or you can have a special dinner or a picnic in two.

Whatever you do and wherever you are, what really matters is giving yourself to the other completely and trying to do wonderful things together.

Then discuss about what happened, how you felt, in order to see what went right and what didn't. The best thing is organizing these vacations in turns so that each of you has the opportunity to choose, act and decide by his own preferences.

LEARN HOW TO KISS
Don't miss any chance to learn how to kiss better. Spend a lot of time practicing the art of kissing when you are turn on or when you are erotically awoke. As a normal result of the erotic massage, learn how to caress as erotic as you can. Give yourself a whole night and let your lover know that the fusion will be non-genital and then be as creative as you can, use your imagination to be happy.

How are you going to do that without sexual contact is only up to you, to your erotic disposal and to your mood. Some couples get aroused so much even if they are not for the sexual intercourse, while for other couples this is very hard, even out of the question. Of course you could end by touching each other or one of you could help the other have an orgasm but without ejaculation. Yet it is not at all necessary that the erotic fusion ends with an orgasm with ejaculation for both even if this is the way you use to do it. Oral excitation without ejaculation-orgasm is well known and also preferred by most people.

THE "REAL-MAN" MYTH
It is regrettable that nowadays many men think strongly that any form of physically love has to end with an intercourse. Many women (if not the majority) say over and over again that they would prefer more kisses and embraces to an intimate-genital activity. Generally almost all men think that a "real man" has sex for hours and never plays like a teenager. This makes a lot of women who do not want an intimate relation yet to refuse men any kind of closeness that could lead to lovemaking.

On the other hand for many men touching and embracing are seen, unfortunately, as leading to sex. They are so used to that that they do not understand anything else. Making them change their minds requires a lot of time and effort. A man who thinks that way needs to be encouraged, to be helped and taught how to enjoy sensually, even erotically, without intercourse. It will probably seem strange to him at the beginning, but in time he will be able to be more self-assured, will-powered and virile.

WHY NOT SEX?
Why shouldn't a couple want to have sex? There are a lot of reasons. Few of us want or can make love all the time or, to be more precise, exactly when the person we love wants to. That's why no sex is an optimal solution that helps a lot to maintain the intimacy and harmony of the couple.

Other times, during a long-term relationship, there are a lot of situations in which both would want to express the love they feel for each other though, for different reasons, the intimate contact can not take place : during pregnancy or immediately after birth or after a surgery, in between stages of an illness etc. there are lots of situations when the real act cant take place.
For a lot of loving, unite couples making love without sex plays a special part in day-to-day life, even if none of the previous situations exists. Acting this way the couples bring what is missing into their lives and express a lot better their love, making their relation a lot more beautiful.

We finally suggest you to take this into advice. If you still see that you keep on having the tendency to avoid the intimate contact, it is best to ask a doctor about it, especially if you want to have a child, because total rejection could have as cause certain mental or psychical disorders.

But, as in any other life-problem, it is also up to the harmony, to finding an equilibrium between sex and non-sex. Look for reaching and maintaining that ideal state where both of you are extraordinary satisfied, fulfilled and happy about your love life.